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Trusting God at 3:00 AM

9/10/2020

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Trusting God - Domestic violence and faith
I am so tired.
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For the past two months, I’ve woken up around 3:00am every night; many nights I’d be thrilled if this was the only time I woke up. Often nights I’m up two or three times.
 

As I wake up in the middle of the night, my head is racing with triggering thoughts. I get up, go to the bathroom, and dread looking at the time on the clock.   
As I climb back into bed, the cycle of self-doubt kicks in; I get nervous about not being able to fall back asleep which aggravates my thoughts. Then I toss and turn, trying my hardest to redirect my thoughts to something not provoking.  ​

Of all the things my abuser took away from me, the ability to sleep often seems like the worst. As I have written about often, so many triggers in my world keep my cortisol levels on the brink of overfill. They are definitely too high for me to sleep comfortably.  

Domestic Violence and Faith: Trusting God

I now know so much about the factors that keep me keyed up. Sugar plays a significant role in my not being able to sleep. Stress, work, being tired, and not taking emotional breaks all contribute to my weariness. I am in a season of my life where I am emotionally beyond my physical capabilities. As I have written before, knowing all of this and prioritizing taking care of myself is a constant struggle for me.  

Hope for the end of this sleepless cycle is still alive. God has provided the battle ground for an all-out war for control of my thoughts 24 hours a day. It’s not a battle to be taken lightly; it’s a battle that is requiring self-control, trust, and belief that tonight might be the last night of struggling. What if tonight was the 7th time around Jericho?  

Turning to God at 3:00 am has been hard. It’s been hard for me to turn to Him when the triggering thought that woke me up is still circling around in my mind.  

In an attempt to switch things up, this morning I started asking God how He was. Maybe if I looked more outward versus inward it would help distract me? While I talk to God every day, perhaps this is a season where I need to quiet myself to hear His voice.  

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In an otherwise normal format for my blog, this is where I’d start mentioning helpful things I do to get me through the topic being discussed. But today, I am not going to do that. A simple Google search can give readers ideas for getting a better night’s sleep. 

Instead, I officially:   
  • Denounce Satan’s lie that I’m the only person still being affected by abuse that ended over thirteen years ago  
  • Rebuke Satan’s lie that I’ll never be able to sleep on my own again 
  • Publicly proclaim my discernment in hearing God’s voice at 3:00am; boldly pray for me to feel God’s presence as I struggle to remove the anguishing thoughts playing so loudly in my mind 
  • Publicly profess my belief that this too shall pass; eventually God will give me the tools to sleep throughout the night again 
I trust God is using this season of tiredness to continue to grow, and that the more I can quiet my mind, the more I will be able to hear His plan for my life. Both in the short and long term.  

With God’s strength, I am putting Satan and his lies on notice, so that I can have a clear mind whenever God wants to speak to me. Even if God is waking me up at 3:00 am to do so. 

Sending blessings and hope,
Sue


6 Joshua 16

Feeling God's Presence

My journey from domestic violence victim to survivor is in its twelfth year. I’ve made huge strides in my recovery over the past five years (aka nervous breakdown year), yet the anxiety within my head has never completely calmed down. But this past weekend, for one of the few times in my life, I felt totally connected to my world for a beautiful five minutes.
One of the goals in my recovery has always been to obtain the calmness and peace God offers to his children. Psalm 29:11: “The LORD gives strength to his people; the LORD blesses his people with peace.”
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2 Comments
SANDRA LOVELACE link
9/10/2020 04:57:01 pm

I notice I sleep well after spending time with someone who interacts with me with mutual respect and love. It's life-changing. :-)
Just doesn't happen all that often. teehee

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Sue
9/10/2020 07:04:31 pm

Love it!!

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