The Power and Control Wheel
Early on in my recovery, a crisis counselor discussed the Power and Control Wheel with me. Remembering my abuser’s actions and seeing them displayed on this wheel helped me begin the painful process of understanding how my abuser was manipulating and controlling me.
Recently I came across the following YouTube videos from the counselors who specialize in counseling domestic violence victims. Although painful, I believe the videos are a great representation of how my abuser sounded and acted.
Understanding the Power and Control Wheel
Coercion and Threats
Maybe your significant other is treating you the same way? Maybe it’s not you who is going crazy but it’s your significant other who is driving you to the brink of insanity?
What if you stopped blaming yourself?
The time surrounding a victim separating from her abuser is often the most dangerous time. Statistics show that across the United States, up to 75% of domestic violence deaths occur after a victim takes steps to leave her abuser. Domestic violence advocacy experts and victim advocacy programs are focused on safety planning and advising a victim during the dangerous time of when she leaves her abuser. These advocates work closely with law enforcement and judicial partners in the community to assist in streamlining and expediting the judicial process. Domestic violence agencies assist with counseling, restraining orders, understanding domestic violence, safety planning, and child custody and welfare issues.
If you are being abused, please consider calling a local domestic violence hotline, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) Advocates are available 24/7. All calls are free and confidential. http://www.thehotline.org/help/
I strongly recommend allowing professionals to assist you during this highly volatile and confusing time!
Hi, I'm Sue
Welcome to my blog! I served twenty-one honorable years on active duty, living a double life of capability and accomplishment in the service while enduring brutality and abusiveness in my twenty-one year oppressive marriage. Today I'm happily married and have three children who are my inspiration and motivation.
My goal is to help combat the lies of abusers with the truth of God. I hope you find my words to be healing and helpful through your own life experiences.
Being separated from my abusive husband didn't make me a domestic violence survivor. It surely didn't release me from the grip of his brainwashing control and the innate power he had on me.
Read the full raw story in my new book, Rock Bottom and Faithless.