October is almost here, and as many of you know, that's when Domestic Violence Awareness month kicks off!
In preparation for this season of awareness, I've linked many of my favorite resources and ways to give back down below, but most exciting of all, I'm starting a five part series on Defeating the Lies of My Abuser using the Book of Proverbs next week.
We're going to be taking the lies that I had known to be true as an abused woman and pairing them up with God's truth. This is integral to the transition from victim to survivor, and will be perfect for anyone who has separated from their abuser, but can't seem to shake the falsehoods embedded into their daily behavior.
Overcoming lies of abuse
When I took the first huge step of leaving my abuser, I didn't realize that it would be a "first step." The real battle began from there. Finding transportation so that I could earn money and support my kids, learning to coparent without letting my kids see the turmoil, and learning to trust God through the whole process.
While making ends meet was on the top of my mind, I still acted very much as a remote control puppet following the ingrained rules and regulations that I had absorbed during my twenty years of abuse. As many long term followers of my blog know, the mental transition came one summer with a three month challenge my church did. The challenge was to read the book of proverbs every day of the month for three months straight.
This was God's way of showing me the life he had planned for me and my children, and it was my guide to defeating my abusers lies.
In this five part series, we're going to take the lies my abuser instilled in me eradicate them using God's truth. I truly believe there is something in Proverbs for everyone, and we all have doubts and lies that can be overcome using the Word of God. I invite you to join me as we examine the lies I defeated, and follow my method to discovering the thoughts that hold you back so that you can shine God's truth on them.
Resources for Victims
If you're not safe at home, you likely hardly have the emotional bandwidth to defeat lies. If you're anything like me on my way out of my abuser's household, figuring out how to get dinner on the table took up all of my time and energy.
For those looking for a safe place to go to, or for resources once you're out on your own, I strongly recommend the following:
Ways to Give Back
Called To Peace is doing a special fundraiser this month to help reach the 1 in 3 women who are affected by domestic abuser in their lifetime. This ministry is especially near and dear to my heart, as I've worked with Joy to help provide support to quite a few individuals, but they also train churches to better handle survivors. During my own journey, I found my own church lacked the resources to help me though they were the first place I turned. Providing churches with resources for survivors can have a ripple effect on women in need that is immeasurable.
They're working diligently to raise $40,000, and any amount you can share will help!
$25 provides a gift card for gas or groceries
$50 a month supports a survivor for a year
$100 pays for a trauma counseling session
$250 provides emergency crisis financial support
$500 provides 25 hours of training and support to churches
Donate to the Called to Peace fundraiser here.
As always, if you've been waiting for the right time to purchase a copy of Rock Bottom and Faithless, 100% (often a bit more than 100%) of proceeds go to matching survivors with their transportation needs, whether it's a used vehicle that will help get them to and from work or if it's a set of tires for a survivor in a pinch.
You can read more about my book here, or head over to Amazon to purchase it here.
Hi, I'm Sue
Welcome to my blog! I served twenty-one honorable years on active duty, living a double life of capability and accomplishment in the service while enduring brutality and abusiveness in my twenty-one year oppressive marriage. Today I'm happily married and have three children who are my inspiration and motivation.
My goal is to help combat the lies of abusers with the truth of God. I hope you find my words to be healing and helpful through your own life experiences.
Being separated from my abusive husband didn't make me a domestic violence survivor. It surely didn't release me from the grip of his brainwashing control and the innate power he had on me.
Read the full raw story in my new book, Rock Bottom and Faithless.