During the school year, most of my requests to my abuser for extra financial support due to the ebb and flow of kids in school, were met with a huge nope; I don’t have any money. Yet, summer after summer my abuser always had time and money to take the children on a week-long vacation to the beach. Honestly, going to the beach probably isn’t a fair statement; he had time, pretend patience, and money to take them to amusement parks, water parks, and all sorts of tourist activities while going to the beach.
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I hated unpacking the stuffed animals and trinkets from the gift shops upon their arrival home. I hated my children’s anticipation of the trips and their excitement when they got home. I hated the week mopping by myself wondering why my life had become so messed up as I was pretty sure I was the only mother in the world not able to take their kids on at least a weekend vacation each summer.
But, over the years, my children have taught me a few valuable lessons such as:
Over the past 13 years I have shown my children that they are the most important thing in my life. They’ve noticed me give up everything to be there for them, protect them, and nurture them. I introduced my children early on about budgets; we splurged together and gave up together.
Below are a few Bible verses that greatly assisted me in getting through my lonely times during the summer:
Additionally, I challenge everyone who has that nagging lie circling around in their thoughts to squash it with a huge sledge hammer: we are not bad mother’s because we don’t have the financial means to take our children on vacation! Please repeat this with me hundreds of times a day!
My hope is that by sharing my pain, it will help others realize they are not alone. I would never down play the pain and loneliness of these days. But, I can offer a testimony as someone who is grateful she leaned on God to get her through it all.
Blessings to all,
Hi, I'm Sue
Welcome to my blog! I served twenty-one honorable years on active duty, living a double life of capability and accomplishment in the service while enduring brutality and abusiveness in my twenty-one year oppressive marriage. Today I'm happily married and have three children who are my inspiration and motivation.
My goal is to help combat the lies of abusers with the truth of God. I hope you find my words to be healing and helpful through your own life experiences.
Being separated from my abusive husband didn't make me a domestic violence survivor. It surely didn't release me from the grip of his brainwashing control and the innate power he had on me.
Read the full raw story in my new book, Rock Bottom and Faithless.