Getting Over Domestic Violence Emotional Abuse
During the worst parts of my recovery, I thought for sure I would never be able to get over the 18 years of emotional abuse from my abuser (now ex-husband). If you were to ask my inner self-confidence, it would say that for the most part I haven’t gotten over the emotional abuse, but have learned how to work around it, and its severe effects. I believe getting over domestic violence emotional abuse will be an ongoing life challenge for me.
Recovering from Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse victim doesn’t define who I am; just what I have lived through. Before I share what has helped me minimize the consequences of the emotional abuse, let me start by sharing what I believe hinders our ability to move forward. I consider these to be negative coping mechanisms and stress releases yet ones that we often find ourselves using:
Power of Time
I now realize that time does have a way of lessening the sting of the abuse, but it isn’t the primary factor in my ability to move forward. My ability to distance myself from my emotional abuse is credited to:
Remember, letting go of our past doesn’t mean we have to forget it; it probably impossible for us to forget our painful situations. It does mean that we should learn from it (avoid future negative and unhealthy relationships) and do everything possible to not allow the remnants of the abuse to continue to tear us down.
I pray my suggestions are helpful.
Hi, I'm Sue
Welcome to my blog! I served twenty-one honorable years on active duty, living a double life of capability and accomplishment in the service while enduring brutality and abusiveness in my twenty-one year oppressive marriage. Today I'm happily married and have three children who are my inspiration and motivation.
My goal is to help combat the lies of abusers with the truth of God. I hope you find my words to be healing and helpful through your own life experiences.
Being separated from my abusive husband didn't make me a domestic violence survivor. It surely didn't release me from the grip of his brainwashing control and the innate power he had on me.
Read the full raw story in my new book, Rock Bottom and Faithless.