Domestic Violence abuse leaves long-term effects.
In January, I broke my heel bone slipping downstairs and landing on the garage floor. I had no idea this situation would reveal significant long-term effects of domestic violence.
Returning to work with a boot and knee scooter generated many comments from co-workers and acquaintances. I was shocked at how many sympathetic comments, and shared experiences, I received with this new injury. After a while, I almost started laughing at my inability to handle this new attention.
Effects of Domestic Violence - Long Term
Almost immediately, I learned two valuable lessons:
Our real injuries as domestic violence victims aren’t often seen. For the most part, our injuries are invisibly tucked away from the entire world, except the chosen few with whom we trust our deepest secrets. Even those people don’t understand; knowing about and experiencing are two different things. Maybe I was one of the lucky ones who’s bruises never landed on my face. I was always able to cover them up with long sleeves (although that did look inappropriate on 90 degree days). I don’t mean to offend anyone who received a visible injury….
Looking back on my journey as a domestic violence victim, it amazes me the mask I wore to live through the days. The secrecy of our experiences provides our abuser so much power! There is not much we can do about that. Our safety, and often the safety of our children, remains the priority.
The masks we wear conceal so much of our pain. For some reason, my broken ankle has really brought this sad thought to mind a lot. Guess it was the uneasiness I felt answering the question “how are you doing?” so many times.
If only I could really answer that question…..
Hi, I'm Sue
Welcome to my blog! I served twenty-one honorable years on active duty, living a double life of capability and accomplishment in the service while enduring brutality and abusiveness in my twenty-one year oppressive marriage. Today I'm happily married and have three children who are my inspiration and motivation.
My goal is to help combat the lies of abusers with the truth of God. I hope you find my words to be healing and helpful through your own life experiences.
Being separated from my abusive husband didn't make me a domestic violence survivor. It surely didn't release me from the grip of his brainwashing control and the innate power he had on me.
Read the full raw story in my new book, Rock Bottom and Faithless.