Nearly half of all women in the United States have experienced psychological aggression (emotional abuse) by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
For me, the emotional abuse – the name calling, derogatory comments, relentless criticism, and constant blame for all the problems in my abuser’s world – started slowly in my 18-year marriage to my abuser. Initially, his bad moods and flaring temper seemed justified. I figured as long as he wasn’t hitting me I should accept his actions as his attempt at making me a better wife. We were both learning this marriage thing; chances are I was making mistakes that needed to be worked on.
Effects of Domestic Violence - Emotional Abuse
The birth of my first child escalated the emotional abuse to include physical abuse. I will always remember the first time Tom hit me; I was carrying our 7-month old. Words were exchanged and the next thing I knew there was this stinging pain from the slap I just received across my face.
Then came his chuckled laughter and comment that froze me in place: “You’d better take a picture of that; you will need it someday for your lawyer”. I felt like I was put on notice: hitting is allowed and will continue.
Caution: My experience has taught me that emotional abuse can turn physical at a moment’s notice. I never dreamed that this first hit was coming. It was nine years after this first hit before I managed to leave my abuser. I lost count of the total number of hits I received over those years.
Hi, I'm Sue
Welcome to my blog! I served twenty-one honorable years on active duty, living a double life of capability and accomplishment in the service while enduring brutality and abusiveness in my twenty-one year oppressive marriage. Today I'm happily married and have three children who are my inspiration and motivation.
My goal is to help combat the lies of abusers with the truth of God. I hope you find my words to be healing and helpful through your own life experiences.
Being separated from my abusive husband didn't make me a domestic violence survivor. It surely didn't release me from the grip of his brainwashing control and the innate power he had on me.
Read the full raw story in my new book, Rock Bottom and Faithless.