When I made the decision to separate from my abuser, I was a 100% atheist. I was a caregiver to my three-year-old daughter battling cancer, mother to two boys under the age of 12 while being abused daily. Surely a loving God wouldn’t have allowed such things to happen. Therefore I decided there must not be a God. Or even if there was a God, He obviously wasn’t concerned about a dysfunctional person like me.
Nearly half of all women in the United States have experienced psychological aggression (emotional abuse) by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
For me, the emotional abuse – the name calling, derogatory comments, relentless criticism, and constant blame for all the problems in my abuser’s world – started slowly in my 18-year marriage to my abuser. Initially, his bad moods and flaring temper seemed justified. I figured as long as he wasn’t hitting me I should accept his actions as his attempt at making me a better wife. We were both learning this marriage thing; chances are I was making mistakes that needed to be worked on.
Hi, I'm Sue
Welcome to my blog! I served twenty-one honorable years on active duty, living a double life of capability and accomplishment in the service while enduring brutality and abusiveness in my twenty-one year oppressive marriage. Today I'm happily married and have three children who are my inspiration and motivation.
My goal is to help combat the lies of abusers with the truth of God. I hope you find my words to be healing and helpful through your own life experiences.
Being separated from my abusive husband didn't make me a domestic violence survivor. It surely didn't release me from the grip of his brainwashing control and the innate power he had on me.
Read the full raw story in my new book, Rock Bottom and Faithless.