When I am feeling good with minimum anxiety and stress, I know God is in control. Even when my life turns upside down, I know God is in control; yet during stressful times holding onto this thought is extremely challenging for me. Stressful times bring forward a weakness in me that I am ashamed of.
Last weekend, I caught myself thinking about one thing while doing another. Trust me, I find myself doing this all the time! Yet, this time was different; it was more significant because for the first time, I changed my response.
I stopped my thought, realized what I was doing, and redirected my thoughts to my activity.
I was being mindful of the moment. Really, really mindful of directing my thoughts to the task at hand.
I learned a lot from giving up dessert, ice cream, cereal, and other major sugar cravings during Lent this year.
Situational awareness of how significantly more dangerous it is for domestic violence victims to “stay at home” with their abusers during these turbulent times is being written about throughout the news. Personally, I am thrilled that our story is getting out. Yet, to me, the awareness is still on the educational level.
By that I mean a reporter is explaining the dangers we face staying at home with our abusers, with a noteworthy statistic to prove our existence, but the now what part is kind of left hanging there. From what I am reading (again, my opinion), we are being led to utilize already overburdened community resources.
During the dark, depressing days after I separated from my abuser, I found two approaches that helped me break out of my depressing thought processes. With all that is going on with the Coronavirus, I hope sharing an excerpt from my book is helpful:
One philosophy that worked for me (during my depression phase after leaving my abuser) was to “tackle the elephant one toe at a time.” During those early recovery years, many competing life issues fought to overwhelm me: my finance, living situation, childcare, job, car maintenance, parents’ health, divorce proceedings, and my children’s health.
Hi, I'm Sue
Welcome to my blog! I served twenty-one honorable years on active duty, living a double life of capability and accomplishment in the service while enduring brutality and abusiveness in my twenty-one year oppressive marriage. Today I'm happily married and have three children who are my inspiration and motivation.
My goal is to help combat the lies of abusers with the truth of God. I hope you find my words to be healing and helpful through your own life experiences.
Being separated from my abusive husband didn't make me a domestic violence survivor. It surely didn't release me from the grip of his brainwashing control and the innate power he had on me.
Read the full raw story in my new book, Rock Bottom and Faithless.