No wonder our journey to domestic violence survivor seems so insurmountable sometimes! When you break down all the pieces that we have going against us, it’s enough to want to just curl up and cry. I didn’t ask for this abuse. I surely didn’t ask for my world to be put on hold while I recover from years of abuse. Other victims reading this blog didn’t willingly sign up for their horrible situations either. Abusers in our world have anger, control, power, and emotional instability problems that they can’t control. It’s not our fault.
Domestic Violence abuse leaves long-term effects.
In January, I broke my heel bone slipping downstairs and landing on the garage floor. I had no idea this situation would reveal significant long-term effects of domestic violence.
Returning to work with a boot and knee scooter generated many comments from co-workers and acquaintances. I was shocked at how many sympathetic comments, and shared experiences, I received with this new injury. After a while, I almost started laughing at my inability to handle this new attention.
Prioritize Professional Counseling
I will be the first to admit; I used to dread the early part of a day before a counseling session. Back when my world was a dark, horrible secret in which I trusted no one, the counseling sessions were just an exercise in voicing a few thoughts while avoiding the “emotional” feelings after domestic violence. I don’t know how many times I stated, very clearly, I don’t remember “how I felt” when…. happened.
Co-Parenting with Abusive Ex-husband
I co-parented with my abuser for ten years. The barrage of emotions surrounding seeing my abusive ex-husband at children’s events became so debilitating. More often than not, I failed to enjoy the reason I left the house. The thought of seeing my abuser triggered overwhelming anxiety and sucked the enjoyment of the event right out of me prior to the event even starting.
Hi, I'm Sue
Welcome to my blog! I served twenty-one honorable years on active duty, living a double life of capability and accomplishment in the service while enduring brutality and abusiveness in my twenty-one year oppressive marriage. Today I'm happily married and have three children who are my inspiration and motivation.
My goal is to help combat the lies of abusers with the truth of God. I hope you find my words to be healing and helpful through your own life experiences.
Being separated from my abusive husband didn't make me a domestic violence survivor. It surely didn't release me from the grip of his brainwashing control and the innate power he had on me.
Read the full raw story in my new book, Rock Bottom and Faithless.